When you take the human experience seriously you suffer.
Think of it as a play and turn your attention to the realization of what is real.
What is real does not come and go and does not appear or disappear.
It is mind events and phenomenal events that come and go.
What you truly are is not a coming or going. 
It is the eternity and universality of consciousness.
Not a thing and yet no thing is possible without it.