It is much more challenging to feel whole, to be whole than to understand wholeness.
Somehow, we have to dive below thinking and deeply into the realm of feelings. 
The tendency to remain at the surface of feelings does not reveal their empty true nature. 
Once we approach feelings with silence, inviting them to reveal themselves, being watchful of the tendency to dress them up or veil them in thinking, we experience the intimacy of being that is their true nature.