When you are arguing, you have assumed yourself and the other. Assuming yourself is empty and void of reality. Whatever you assume is fiction.
Thus your unhappy argumentation is empty and unreal.
Why get so worked out?
Instead, can you see through the charade?
Can you remain still and in this remaining, can you notice the stillness that has no cause, the stillness that is, the I/stillness that is ever presence? 
This endless imaginary coming and going is unhappy and is a sort of spiraling that leads you deeper and deeper in the imaginary rabbit hole.
Do not postpone your awakening. Be still, unmoved and notice there is no one being still, no one doing anything and yet, all and nothing is done.
Effortlessly so.
The peace of being, ever deepening, unmoved, unmoving.