If you want to be at ease in life, to enjoy the waking dream…then why add constraints and conditions? Why encumber the space with your personal conditions, rules and restrictions? You are only limiting and constraining yourself.
If you believe that you have no choice, then you will continue to seek happiness while imposing restrictive conditions… conditions that will keep you from the happiness that you seek… Limitations that set a shadow upon your happiness.
Once you deeply understand that happiness is unconditional, your personal conditions and constraints will loosen their imposition on the situation and you will grow increasingly spacious with the feelings and conversations that arise in your body mind … will cease to cater to them.